40th Day of Death
I did not attend the memorial service held in your honor by your brothers and sisters 40 days after your death. I think your oldest daughter went but none in your immediate family.
I don’t have to justify to anyone how I grieve. You do not only belong to me but to your kins who wanted to celebrate your life customary to their inclinations. That is their prerogative and I respect that. Turning me to embrace a cultural expectation is something that requires more than a persuasive guilt trip. I have to agree that would be the best course of action to take.
I’ve always been a rebel. I am a strong Asian woman who married outside of cultural expectations. I married against natural cultural proclivities all in the name of love. To challenge that love and loyalty now just because I was absent from your family sponsored memorial service is absurd. I served you well. I loved you deeply. I defended you against all the world’s many trials. I was your partner till the end.
No one can change the life we had. No one can say otherwise that I was untrue. As you know, I believed above all — I live life with authenticity. I kept my promise.
I don’t have to justify to anyone how I grieve. You do not only belong to me but to your kins who wanted to celebrate your life customary to their inclinations. That is their prerogative and I respect that. Turning me to embrace a cultural expectation is something that requires more than a persuasive guilt trip. I have to agree that would be the best course of action to take.
I’ve always been a rebel. I am a strong Asian woman who married outside of cultural expectations. I married against natural cultural proclivities all in the name of love. To challenge that love and loyalty now just because I was absent from your family sponsored memorial service is absurd. I served you well. I loved you deeply. I defended you against all the world’s many trials. I was your partner till the end.
No one can change the life we had. No one can say otherwise that I was untrue. As you know, I believed above all — I live life with authenticity. I kept my promise.